I want to encourage our coaching community not to let the clamoring be a distraction, but instead see it as a motivation. No matter what may be happening in the world never ever lose sight of the purpose within yourself. Ralph Waldo Emerson said it beautifully when he addressed how to make a difference by living a well-lived life:
“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make a difference that you have lived and lived well.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882)
Notice the words Emerson uses in describing making a difference. To be useful, to behonorable, and to be compassionate. In this day and age it is more important than ever for each individual to hold to these qualities and display them in their own lives. But perhaps more importantly it is these qualities that can bring purpose to your own life. And purpose, according to Emerson, comes from living so you can make a difference. Ask yourself: could a sense of purpose bring peace to each person’s individual life, including your own? We all must give peace a chance in our own hearts before it can be demonstrated outwardly to a world that needs it.
Becoming a certified coach could be considered the perfect outlet to be useful, honorable, and compassionate. Is this how you find purpose, and through finding purpose find peace?
New Vibe Training is starting its last CORE Certification course of the year November 18th and 19th. Is coaching how you find peace and purpose?
I was recently asked “what are some of the biggest barriers coaches struggle with?” My immediate response was the two deadly E’s: Envy and Ego. Envy is regarding or longing to have someone else’s advantage or wishing they were like someone else. This of course denounces their true sense of self, worthiness, or unique contribution. On the opposite end of envy, there is ego. The dictionary describes ego or egotism as conceit or self-importance. Both are functions of the mind which can influence how we feel and act. As a professional coach one can easily lose their effectiveness if envy and ego are not in check. How would you know if your ego is in check? Consider the following: you’re not hung up on being proved wrong in situations or easily embarrassed. You’re relaxed on issues of position, power or prestige. You’re able to cope with the unexpected. You find ways to stay resourceful even in crisis. If this describes you, your ego is likely more helpful than harmful; ego, when it is properly recognized and used in balance for good, can bring forth benefits. When the ego’s energy is self-centered, however, it can be traced to deeper insecurities. To coach clients and employees to grow, the coaching language and skillset is centered solely on enhancing the healthy growth of their ego. The contribution a well-trained coach delivers goes right to the ego core of the person being coached. In other words it’s all about the other person not about you. Becoming a certified coach not only has professional benefits and enormous personal growth, but also the opportunity to help others grow. Don’t miss out on being well-trained to grow people and help deliver healthy ego’s all around us.
-Carl Casanova, M.S.
“The New Vibe Training course grew my confidence and helped me incorporate new empowering, resourceful habits that have changed me and those around me.”
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“I was a business manager the first half of my career. Now the second half I’m coaching. The training at New Vibe Training was the catalyst that clarified my years of experience and revamped my purpose.”
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When it comes to your own growth and professional development, consider this: sometimes it’s not sensible to play it safe. The well-known psychologist and creator of the Hierarchy of Needs, Abraham Maslow once said, “you will either step forth into growth, or you will step back into safety.” For many people the mind is set on clinging to the known to avoid the unknown. How many times have we forfeited opportunities due to fear or lack of confidence, and been stuck in the same old humdrum because we played it safe? Well observe this reality: the world around us is constantly evolving and adapting and the advantage goes to the person who invests on their path of personal and professional growth. Yes, it’s important to minimize costly risks, and at the same time maximize our ability to improve ourselves. I believe the biggest bang for your self-improvement investment is learning and applying the coaching language and skill set to your every-day life. I believe it because I’m living proof.
In the book “The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever” Michael Bungay Stanier shares a remark from the author of the book “Emotional Intelligence” Daniel Goleman: “He suggested that there are six essential leadership styles. Coaching was one of them and it was shown to have a ‘markedly positive’ impact on performance, climate (culture) and the bottom line.” Without a doubt, more and more individuals and organizations that are identifying a need to grow are shifting toward coaching as a guide to move forward or becoming a coach to support others.
New Vibe Training (Est. 2002) is the original Coach accredited ICF Certification school in the state of Oregon and we’re celebrating over twelve hundred students now certified and helping positive change throughout the world. Could this be your season to risk an investment in yourself? Enroll in the upcoming Fall CORE Certification Course and see how you can maximize your bottom line.
“Entering the coach training at New Vibe in 2008 ignited something in me that changed my life forever! I found a vehicle to help find the wonder in me so I can help others discover their own wonder within. I’ve heard it said ‘life begins at 40!’ I say life begins when you coach!
“Coaching has opened so many doors and I love guiding others through their own discovery process. After so many years in the corporate world I learned at New Vibe specifically how to guide others to be empowered and think for themselves.”
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A few weeks ago, I stepped out of my office and ran into a colleague named Al Faatz, who had just finished a day of coaching clients. What inspires me about Al, is how sharp his mind is and his love for coaching, which he still does even at 75 years old.
The great benefit of coaching is you can coach well into your senior years. There is something about time, experience, and maturity that helps one help others grow. In hiring my own personal coach, I look for important traits that work for me; some alignments with philosophy of life, an understanding of the psychology of success, being ICF certified and having a fair amount of life experience, which only comes with time.
A study by the University of Michigan (2010), concerning the advantages and contributions of being older. Here is what was discovered; heightened ability to imagine different points of view, or see the bigger picture. Extended thinking of multiple solutions, higher skill level at dealing with social conflicts and greater emotional intelligence. The wisdom that comes from experience, maturity, and time are vital elements for coaching others toward success. Just run into Al Faatz and see for yourself.
Here are 3 truths concerning maturity, experience and time:
- BETTER WITH EXPERIENCE: Yes, just like fine wine gets better and better with age, well so do coaches. There’s a lot to be said about going around the block a few times. We learn and grow from our exposure to daily living. Consider this, all things we go through, the good and the not so good, are of value to the coach as well as to the client for further development.
- BETTER WITH MATURITY: I love this quote, “If I would have 50 years of living, I certainly would give 25 years toward preparation.” In other words, focus on preparing yourself, it matures you. A study concluded that people over 50 were happier overall, more positive about self-well-being and managed the ups and downs of life more effectively. This could only happen as we mature.
- BETTER WITH TIME: Age is a huge topic for there are over 100,000 books written on the subject. The question is, how will you invest your time as you age? I once heard John Maxwell, author and speaker, say, “Time grows all things.” Indeed it does, and coaching others to grow to make this a healthier world is the perfect aging lifestyle.
Carl Casanova, M.S.
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Recently, I checked in with a New Vibe alumni and dear friend who has lived a life of many trials and troubles during her sixty plus years. I asked her how she was able to withstand the many disappointments of life. She smiled and kindly said, “Humor has been my medicine.” Wow, how often we underestimate the life-giving potion of humor. The term humor derives from the ancient Greeks who taught the balance of fluids in the body manages the wellness of the person and humor helps bring our minds and heart into balance.
In 1964 Norman Cousin, who was a teacher and later author of the book, “The Anatomy of an Illness,” visited his doctor and discovered he had but months to live. With a beautiful wife and four daughters, he desperately wanted to live, despite the news of his incurable disease with little chance of surviving. Norman developed his own wellness program from his assessment of what made him feel vibrant. He took vitamins (especially Vitamin C) along with implementing a positive attitude, faith, hope and love and laughter. He watched endless comedy shows and it was revealed that the positive emotion (humor) was directly connected to positive chemical changes in his body. Norman found a cure through humor and lived 36 more years. If you are looking for preventative medicine, find something to laugh about.
Here are three steps for your own immunization through humor:
- LAUGH OUT LOUD: Give yourself permission to just laugh out loud for no good reason. Laughing is actually a great workout for your muscles and improves your alertness and creativity. How can you get emotions that are more positive back into your life? Start laughing and you will find great vibes for life and it will be contagious.
- LAUGH AT YOURSELF: Learning to laugh at yourself is not easy but necessary. That simply says, “I’m not taking myself so seriously.” We actually change physiologically whenever we laugh because of an increase in flow of endorphins from the adrenaline system. It’s like taking a chill pill, which shifts our moods, and guides us to see the situation or ourselves from a different perspective.
- LAUGH WITH OTHERS: Laughing at others is not cool, but laughing with others is the coolest. Sharing humor increases the connection between people and creates a bond. Smiling and laughing with someone primes the pump to join in on the fun and celebrate life. Consider this, when working with a coach, make sure they have a good sense of humor. It’s really good medicine.
Carl Casanova, M.S.
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I once heard a speaker say, the quality of life will be determined on the good questions you are asking.” The amazing thing about asking questions is that it requires you being curious. I really never understood what is meant by “curiosity killed the cat.” I would think curiosity is the breath of life, which brings forth the traits of imagination, exploration and ingenuity maybe even being a genius. Consider this, Socrates, Leonardo da Vinci, Albert Einstein, Bill Gates and those that have influenced our society positively, first asked questions from a curious mind.
After some highs and lows from last year, I was determined for a breakthrough year so right after Christmas Day I left for a private two-day retreat with journal in hand and written out questions. Here are a few questions I asked myself. “What was learned from the past year that will make me a better person this coming year?” “How will I enrich my life so others can see me as a role model?” “Where will I discover the joy, the peace, the love and the added resources for my purpose in life?” For me, no gimmicks this year, just straight up questions from a place of curiosity. It is a sincere place where I am seeking answers for a celebrated life. Here are three tips to tap into your curiosity:
- STAYING AWARE: It is easy to hibernate and isolate after some hurtful and unexpected negative experiences. However, to improve your year ask yourself this question, what did I learn, what do I need to unlearn and relearn? It’s all about being aware of your learning and not repeating heartaches. I really related to this post recently, “Dear past thank you for all the lessons. Dear Future, I am ready!”
- STAYING ACTIVE: Yep! New and rejuvenating experiences are waiting for the person who stays active. Be assured nothing ever stays the same, so be ready when a new opportunity presents itself. When active the chemicals in your brain actually produce happy feelings and good vibrations. I like the saying, “You can’t reach second base while keeping your foot on first, so get moving!”
- STAYING ALIVE: This may not be you; however, a breakthrough year may be catching a little fever on a Saturday night on the dance floor. In other words, get out and celebrate. Break your year down seasonally; list 3 – 4 fun adventures, like a beach trip, attend a live play, go out to dinner’s more often, go hiking, biking, travel to a new place, throw a party, keep your schedule marked up and evaluate how much you are learning and be determined to grow and stay alive. Have a fabulous 2015!
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In the next 23 days, all breathing human beings will enter a place of commonality. That would be, living through 525,948,766 minutes, 8,765.81 hours, 365 days, 52 weeks and 12 months making up a full year, now behold a new year will appear to do it all over again.
Sure, positive reflections will occupy our minds as we think back, however, how shall we think or what do we do with the hurt, the disappointment, the loss, the pain, the discouragement, and the sadness before we go into the New Year? Let us be honest, we all know nothing runs perfectly, not the weather, not our jobs, not our relationships, not even this past year.
I know this is the holiday season and maybe the expectation is sharing something that makes us feel jolly. However, in order to not repeat what doesn’t work for next year I encourage being thoughtful of your challenges from this year, whether with employees or employers, love relationships, parenting children or just significant connections. As a psychotherapist these many years, I know the importance of being intentional on working on our woundedness from relationships and as you process through don’t let your past interfere with your future. Ask yourself this question, “what am I going to enter the New Year with? How can I be set free from my past to enter my new future? Here are three (3) recommendations on what to absolutely bring into the New Year to set yourself free.
- BRING FORGIVENESS: Before you enter the New Year, release people that have hurt you. In other words, experience one of the most powerful things you can do and that is to forgive. Not forgiving is drinking the poison of bitterness, which kills you. We all have hurt others others have hurt you. Forgiveness will set you free.
- BRING COMPASSION: Before you enter the New Year, allow yourself to feel understanding and care for those that disappointed you. Yes, this is a mighty tall order but what a selfless act to model. The Dalai Lama said, “Our prime purpose in life is to help others. If you can’t help them at least don’t hurt them.” Know that hurt people do hurt people. Compassion will set you free.
- BRING A LETTING GO MINDSET: Before you enter the New Year make an assessment of the letdowns you continue to replay in your brain and let them go. Express the pain and move toward the healing power of letting go or it will only control you and that’s a set-up for missing out on what’s next. Letting go is not a gift to those who hurt us but to ourselves. Let go, it will set you free.
Have a Happy Holiday and be free for a liberating New Year!
Carl Casanova, M.S.
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As humans, we have many commonalities. One certainty is, all want to be successful. This topic takes me back to when I was 12 years old and I was cut from my Junior High basketball team. It was one of my most painful feelings, especially after trying so hard to succeed at what I wanted and failed. However, that event inspired a determination to grow and learn how to manifest success, and help others do the same. I discovered, after much trial and error, failure can be a catalyst toward success. Successful people also create rich daily habits and are responsible for their own version of success because it’s self-defined and multi-faceted.
I get the societal concept of power, prestige, and possession being a distinct motivator, however, could success be about something more? I love the proverb that says, “success is sweet to the soul.” Prov. 13:19. Ask yourself; what role does family, friends, happiness, money, and a life-calling play in success for you? Is this the time for your commitment to daily habits of success and sharing with others? I recently attended a breakfast and Travis Boersma, the CEO of Dutch Brothers Coffee said, “Success is not owned, it is rented every day,” and I totally agree. These three (3) steps I’ve learned from successful people who know:
- SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE KNOW: Your brain and body is a function of what you feed it so health and vitality are a priority. According to statistics, 76% exercise aerobically 4 days a week for 30 minutes. In addition, 88% read 30 minutes daily as well as 67% watch less than one hour of TV daily. Rest is important for your brain and 89% sleep seven hours each night and 44% start their day three hours before punching the clock.
- SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE KNOW: Goals are a must, and 81% focus on one major goal and operate from a daily to do list. In addition, 54% have an optimistic approach to life and are solution focused. Concerning finances, they give 10% to worthy causes and 94% save 20% of their income. Successful people know it’s not about luck but daily habits.
- SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE KNOW: How much healthy relationships matter, which results in 77% lower risk of heart disease. They build strong alliances both personally and professionally and 75% are mentored or coached by influential, successful people. People who seek success help others be successful. Learn more, purchase your copy of “What Every Successful Person Knows” and begin your 30 minutes of reading a day today for your high percentage of successful living.
Carl Casanova, MS.
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Thinking about shaking things up in your life? Well good for you, however, do you really know what you’re up against? Prepare yourself for a skirmish.
I love the story of the metamorphosis of the caterpillar destined to be a cool butterfly. On the outside, the cocoon itself appears calm; however, on the inside a struggle to change is taking place.
This week my good buddy, John Olsson flew to Spain to experience a two-week personal pilgrimage by walking the famous path of the El Camino Santiago (www.elcaminosantiago.com) or the way of St. James. He felt the call to make some changes. If you’re paying attention, you can feel it in your soul when it’s time for change. Consider this, if you’re operating from the same old thoughts, using the same familiar language and existing in the same pre-historic environment, you’ve become outdated. A change is needed.
Only you can feel it deep within when to launch your self-growth passage to radically transform your life. Pace yourself, take one-step at a time; for that miserable feeling inside will end with a breathtaking celebration outside. Is it time for you to start walking toward a transformed life? Here are three (3) steps to put your boots on the ground:
- INFORMER: You must desire to change so much that you are willing to give up that old person you use to be. Start with getting real concerning your pain and decide what you really want instead. Life is lived out in seasons so ask yourself, am I entering a season where change is needed? If so, create a plan, inform yourself on your resources and lace up your boots to go on your own personal pilgrimage.
- PERFORMER: When the butterfly immerges from its cocoon, its wings are folded and soft. It is in its expanding and flapping that it becomes strong and able to fly. In other words, when you are in motion you get stronger and create energy to perform. Are you prepared to take yourself to an unfamiliar territory? If so, talk is cheap. You must take action and unleash yourself today.
- TRANSFORMER: You’re either conforming or transforming, however, when you’ve experienced transformation, it is because the healing of hurts, habits, and hang-ups have taken place. Change is never easy; but necessary; you will know when it’s occurring because your mind and heart will meet at the intersection of self-love, which releases the ability to love others. So take up your marching orders and head up the trail for a transformed life.
Carl Casanova M.S.